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By Dr. Bruce T. Marshall
March 27, 2011

READING

From A Guide to Walking Meditation by Thich Nhat Hanh, who is a Buddhist monk.

Walking meditation is practicing meditation while walking. It can bring you joy and peace while you practice it. Take short steps in complete relaxation; go slowly with a smile on your lips, with your heart open to an experience of peace. You can feel truly at ease with yourself. Your steps can be those of the healthiest, most secure person on earth. All sorrows and worries can drop away while you are walking. To have peace of mind, to attain self-liberation, learn to walk in this way. It is not difficult. You can do it. Anyone can do it who has some degree of mindfulness and a true intention to be happy.

In our daily lives, we usually feel pressured to move ahead. We have to hurry. We seldom ask ourselves where it is that we must hurry to.

When you practice walking meditation, you go for a stroll. You have no purpose or direction in space or time. The purpose of walking meditation is walking meditation itself. Going is important, not arriving. Walking meditation is not a means to an end; it is an end. Each step is life; each step is peace and joy. That is why we don't have to hurry. That is why we slow down. We seem to move forward, but we don't go anywhere; we are not drawn by a goal. Thus we smile while we are walking.

If I had the Buddha's eyes and could see through everything, I could discern the marks of worry and sorrow you leave in your footprints after you pass, like the scientist who can detect tiny living beings in a drop of pond water with a microscope. Walk so that your footprints bear only the marks of peaceful joy and complete freedom. To do this, you have to learn to let go—let go of your sorrows, let go of your worries.

That is the secret of walking meditation.

SERMON

The phone was ringing. It was dark outside, Saturday morning. A confused glance revealed a “4” at the beginning of the numbers on the digital clock. This was some years back, but already I had been jarred out of early morning sleep by calls bringing news of tragedy in the lives of congregation members. When the phone rings in the middle of the night, I had learned, the best to hope for is a wrong number. The second best is an obscene call.

This was neither. The voice on the other end was an occasional member of the congregation. A college professor, respected and loved by her students, if also considered a little eccentric. “Bruce,” she said in urgent voice. “Look outside: the northern sky. The aurora borealis is gorgeous.”

“Oh,” I said, “thank you for telling me. I'm glad you called.”

I really said that, and I meant it. In retrospect it sounds stupid, but at that moment a call about the northern lights was the best alternative I could imagine.

I stepped outside, stood on the porch, looked up to the sky, but I couldn't find any old aurora borealis. I saw the initial brightening that promised the dawn—that was it. I came back into the house, made a pot of coffee. My day had begun.

Being a minister can be hazardous to your spiritual health. Congregation members might not realize this, but it’s a well known phenomenon among those of us in this profession: amidst our duties and responsibilities and just plain old busyness, we lose track of that call of the infinite that brought us to ministry in the first place. We can't see the aurora borealis for the trees.

But it’s not just ministry: ordinary life is hazardous for our spiritual health. Each of us faces days when we just pull ourselves through, hassled by a thousand things, cut off from any vital center. Each sometimes feels drained, the joy of being an abstract concept. The experience of deep peace that Thich Nhat Hanh described in the opening reading seems unreachable.

Spirituality is part of everyday life. As the psychologist, Abraham Maslow, put it, AThe great lesson from the true mystics is that the sacred is in the ordinary, that it is to be found in one's daily life, in one's neighbors, friends, and family, in one's back yard.” This morning I would like to encourage us to pause, think through moments of an ordinary day, and consider how what gives us life can be present in the same everyday activities that sometimes wear us down.

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We’ll start with waking up. At our house, waking up is a fairly brutal operation, even when I don’t get calls demanding that I go outside and look at the sky. On a normal morning, our first alarm goes off at 5:40 a.m. The next one goes off at 5:45 a.m. This is when we need to get up for Amy to be at work by 8:30 or a little before.

In between the two alarms, I lie in bed as fragments of dreams linger. There is quiet at that time of day. The road sounds that are so present during daylight hours are not as insistent as they will later become. But there might be a few chirps from birds who are on a schedule similar to mine. I’ve noticed in the last few weeks that the birdsongs have changed in anticipation of spring and warmer weather. It may still be cold outside, but the birds don’t sound like they do in the depths of winter.

I remember when I was growing up, maybe in high school or junior high, my father woke me up each morning, and then I turned on the radio by my bed. This would be at ten minutes before seven, and there was a brief little program—after the farm news and before the national news. The show was introduced by cheery announcer who blurted out, “Top of the morning to you!” There would be a song or two—and a few commercials—before the World News Roundup at 7:00.

During those ten minutes, my awareness floated between consciousness and dreams, accompanied by those songs and the patter of the announcer. It felt like the longest ten minutes of a day—in a good way. I didn’t have to get up yet. The World News Round and its non-nonsense tone was still in the future. I drifted into the new morning.

The five minutes between alarms at our house today reminds me of that, a time between the worlds of wakefulness and sleep. Sometimes words come to me that are in our hymnal, a kind of morning prayer.

     Look to this day!
     For it is life, the very life of life.
     In its brief course lie all the verities
     And realities of your existence:
          The bliss of growth,
          The glory of action
          The splendor of beauty...
     Look well, therefore, to this day.

Washing your hands. Thich Nhat Hanh has written, AIf you look deeply into the palm of your hand, you will see your parents and all generations of your ancestors. All of them are alive in this moment. Each is present in your body. You are the continuation of each of these people.

Aside from our faces, hands are the most expressive parts of our bodies. They show our personality, our character, our history, our being. With our hands we work, create, we heal, we comfort, we express care and love. With our hands we pass something of ourselves to another. We receive what others have to offer us. We are joined into a web of connections.

Pay attention to your hands. While washing in the morning. While talking. While sharing work and play. While touching and being touched—pay attention to your hands and to those of others. In each person's hands is something sacred.
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Eating breakfast. My breakfast is the same every morning, has been for decades. Two pieces of toast with jelly, plus a little peanut butter smeared on the side, and coffee. I alternate types of toast and varieties of jelly and recently as a concession to age, I’ve switched to decaf, but the basic concept hasn’t changed. Nutritionists tell us that breakfast is the most important meal of the day, but I don't think my breakfast has anything to do with nutrition.

The clue to this is that even if I have something scheduled for the morning that involves another breakfast, I still have my two pieces of toast with coffee before I leave the house. So I don't think we're talking physical nourishment here; we’re talking about giving structure to the day. You know, those things we do each day to build a frame into which we fit our lives. Too little frame, and the day has no shape: too much frame and we're trapped in this structure of our own making. But the right amount gives form and meaning.

My toast defines the start of a day whose journey will continue until I reach my evening ritual: into bed with a book or a crossword puzzle until I slip back into the netherworld of sleep and dreams. Then I know that the day can be defined as complete. What gives your day structure? How do you start a morning?

Doing your chores. Chores seem mostly a burden: all those things we have to do to keep our lives in order. And yet, isn't it nice when we can check one of those chores off the list? There is a sense of accomplishment, completion, that this one little part of my life—it may only be the laundry or the washing the dishes—but this is now in order, for awhile.

According to the book of Genesis, God gave Adam and Eve the responsibility of naming all the animals in the new creation. To give each an identity, to give us a way of relating to them, to put them in order.

We do similar things through our chores. We bring order into the world. There is something holy about naming and organizing and finding places for the pieces of our lives. There is something holy about putting things and experiences into relationship with each other and with ourselves. And so celebrate your chores: the form and pattern and clarity they bring to your days.

Digging the weeds. Digging the garden, pulling the weeds, who could ask for more? Well, that's true. But the garden we'll leave for another time—like next week when we celebrate our flower communion. Right now, I'm more concerned with weeds. Weeds have a spiritual lesson to teach, a lesson of humility and the limits to what we can plan and do amidst the abundance of the force of life.

Chores you can get done—not forever, but at least for now. Weeds, however, are never done. Even if we can't see them, they're out there, waiting for an opportunity. Especially during this time of year: they’re underground plotting a grand return. Even if we manage to pull out all the weeds we see, even if we poison them into oblivion—still, a few will make it and in these survivors is enough power to throw our plans into disarray.

Weeds teach the lesson that we never have things all tidied up. The abundance of life is such that just when we think everything is tamed and in its proper place, a dandelion pops up—uninvited—to crash the party. If we happen to look the other way, the force of life quickly reshapes our environment into something other than what we have intended.

Weeds are part of life. That realization helps me relax. It keeps in check my tendency for over-planning. Life is never going to be as neat and tidy as I imagine it could be. There are always going to be weeds. Might as well accept that and get on with it.

Taking care of the car. This is from an essay by Andy Rooney.

My old station wagon is being fixed now and I hope everything comes out OK. It's good to have a car you don't worry about denting. The wagon was always the one that got let out in the rain and snow. If there was a dirty job to be done, I did it in the wagon. I saved my good car because I wanted the good car to last. I've had three good cars since I bought the wagon. The wagon, mistreatment and all, has outlasted the cars I pampered.

When I get it back, the first thing I'm going to do is give it a nice full tank of high-octane gas, some clean fresh oil and a warm bath. I want the wagon to know that it's loved.

Taking care of things and pets and people—it’s how we show love. Taking care and showing love—even for an old station wagon—is a way of expressing and deepening our spirituality. For this is a beautiful world with wonderful people and things we depend upon. They deserve our attention and our care.

Visiting a friend. I notice in our joys and sorrows that often we mark visits with friends as times of joy. Friends in other parts of the country and the world. Friends nearby that we don't see enough of. And also those friends who are close by and reliably part of our lives.

Here's a definition of friendship: a friend helps you discover who you are simply by being who he or she is. You don't need plans or goals for the relationship; you can simply be with each other.

Such moments of “just being” with another person happens in bits and pieces all the time. But when it occurs reliably with a particular person, then you've got something special. So maybe we each can make this resolution: be a friend for someone. Be who you are with another person—let that other person be who he or she is. There is no greater gift to offer.

Wandering around. Wandering around is not about goals and objectives, it's not about intentional activity, it's not about getting things done. It's about meandering and seeing what turns up. It’s a form of walking meditation.

In England there's an activity called rambling. Rambling is going for a walk with a friend or with a group. This is an unfocussed kind of walk with no particular goal in mind other than to enjoy the walk. There are ramblers clubs that ramble together each Sunday morning—it can take the place of church in that more secular society. You sort of follow a map, but that's not the point. The point is to go where the spirit leads and take plenty of time doing it. Then you finish up at the pub.

In a book called, On Becoming Lost by a naturalist named Cathy Johnson, the author notes, There is an art to wandering. If I have a destination, a plan—an objective—I’ve lost the ability to find serendipity. I've become too focused, too single-minded. I am on a quest, not a ramble. I search for the Holy Grail of particularity and miss the chalice freely offered, filled and overflowing.

Wandering around is hard for me. I feel guilty if I don’t have a goal, someplace to point toward where I need to be going. Goals are fine; we need them too. But sometimes we can let go of our intentionality and become open to the surprises and blessings that are abundantly scattered throughout this life.

Notice the change in the light. Light is different at different times of the day. The light of dawn. The light of mid-morning. The light of noon. The late of late afternoon. Evening light and the light that fades when nighttime overcomes day.

Light is also different in different places. Light in the north is clear and sharp. Light in the south is softer, more diffuse. Desert light is different from forest light which is different from the light we see on an ocean beach. Sunny day light is different from cloudy day light which is different from snowy day or rainy day light.

Light is different in different seasons. Spring light evokes the mists of creation. Summer light is bolder, stronger, heavier. Pause sometimes to notice the light—and the feelings it evokes in you and the memories. It's another way to forge connection with this mysterious and wonderful world that has given us life and offers us the opportunity to laugh and hope and love and play and look at the stars.

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Spirituality has to do with relationship. Relationship with other people. Relationship with the depths of oneself. Relationship with the world around us. Relationship with the force that gives us life.

We may experience that relationship in times when extraordinary things happen—but we may find it too in the ordinary. In the everyday events of our lives: Waking up, washing our hands, eating breakfast, doing your chores, digging the weeds, taking care of the car, visiting friends, wandering around, mindful walking, watching for the changes in the light—and all kinds of other everyday activities. The sacred is in the ordinary.

My hope is that you pause a moment now and then to notice the gifts scattered throughout your days, even the ordinary days. For there is renewal and beauty and reassurance and hope and peace—the oneness of the force of existence expressed through the myriad of forms in the life we share on this earth.

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