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By Rev. A. Powell Davies D.D.
May 4, 1947


In one of the creation myths, it is related of Prometheus, who is supposed to have brought life as well as fire to the earth, that in the process of molding the animals out of clay he used up all the available supply of water. Consequently, when he came to make man there was nothing with which to bind the clay together and he found it breaking apart and crumbling in his hands. Some of the gods suggested that this was an omen that man had better be left uncreated. Why not be satisfied with the multitude of living creatures already in existence? But Prometheus refused to be frustrated. He looked up into the sky for signs of rain: there was not a cloud to be seen beneath the brazen vault of heaven. He searched the Garden of Creation for undiscovered wells and springs: the gods had dried them all up. Even the grass was beginning to be parched. At last, Prometheus threw himself down on the ground and wept, and then, while his grief was still unspent, he saw that his tears had moistened the clay and that it held together. Swiftly, he molded it afresh, and before the sun went down was ready to breathe the breath of his own life into the image he had fashioned, and man, the child of desire and sorrow, was created.
 
What the myth means, of course, is obvious. Yet, until very recently it was a meaning that a large part of the modern world had forgotten. Sadness was regarded as something alien to normal life, a mood that was unavoidable, perhaps, in misfortune, and almost inevitable in bereavement, but a sort of malady of the emotions to be banished as quickly as possible. Brightness and optimism were called for in all circumstances; more and more opportunities were being afforded for gaiety; newer and newer ways were being invented for getting cheered up. And, in fact, everything was so good, or going to be so good, that there was really no excuse for gloom.
 
When such a brilliant publicist as William Ralph Inge, Dean of St. Paul's in London, insisted upon taking a graver view of human affairs, the newspapers dubbed him "the Gloomy Dean." His notoriety was considerable, his popularity extremely low. No one wanted to listen to what the Gloomy Dean was really saying, namely, that optimism is too shallow a faith; that it does not fit the facts--not all of them, not even the most important of them--and that if the modern age is to save itself from the same fate that has overtaken previous very confident ages, it must reckon with realities from which, in shallowness and petulance, it turns aside and looks the other way.
 
But the Gloomy Dean was only reinforcing what the Promethean myth had tried to tell us long before. That in the composition of human life, tears are just as natural as laughter. That the substance of sorrow has been in us from the beginning. That you cannot have desire without heartache, or feel the poignancy of yearning without knowing the closeness of despair. What the myth tells us is that this was always so. Or, as Swinburne re-tells it in his Atalanta in Calydon,
 
"Before the beginning of years,
There came to the making of man,
 Time, with a gift of tears;
Grief, with a glass that ran;
 Pleasure, with pain for leaven;
Summer, with flowers that fell;
 Remembrance fallen from heaven;
And madness risen from hell;
 Strength without hands to smite;
Love that endures for a breath;
 Night, the shadow of light,
And life, the shadow of death."

If this, then, is the nature of man, or an inevitable part of it, of what use is it to say of gloom, as some do, that the thing to do is to avoid it? How can you avoid the inevitable? Or pretend to make no room for what springs from the essential nature of your own life? Such advice is too facile, too unperceiving; sometimes, it is nothing but mockery.
It is true, of course, that cheerfulness comes more readily to some people than to others. It may be true, as we are occasionally told, that there are those who escape despondency almost altogether. But whether this is entirely fortunate is quite a question! And one I do not presume to answer. I merely mention in passing that very little of importance in the world has been accomplished by people who are consistently cheerful. I am not speaking of outward appearances, which are often deceptive, but of inner realities. Indeed, it is quite doubtful whether consistent cheerfulness is entirely compatible with the full use of the mental faculties. I remember that Pearl Buck, in one of her books, portrays a little Chinese girl with an undeveloped mind, and the mother of the little girl, whenever she needs to explain to a stranger that her daughter is not normal, sensitively avoids direct reference to insanity and simply says, "All her thoughts are happy ones." We have to recognize, I think, that if acute melancholia can be diagnosed as psychopathic, so can perpetual hilarity.
 
Even when it is some distance from needing institutional treatment, perpetual hilarity can be disturbing; it can also be extremely irritating. The person who finds everything just wonderful and "smiles and whistles under all circumstances" may be quite exhilarating for half an hour or so, but if it lasts much longer, his victims clench their hands behind their backs and wonder whether they can get away before they surrender to an overwhelming impulse to choke him.
 
Even when such cheerfulness excites no wrath, it can be repugnant to a normal person. The reason is, of course, that something common-sensical within us demands a proper reckoning with realities. We are repelled by the superficiality of this sort of cheerfulness. We want to go away somewhere and feel as gloomy as possible--just to recover our mental balance.
 
And in the present world, where there is so much of misery spread out over the face of the earth, and so much of foreboding as we face the future, even if gloom were not already a natural mood of human life, coming and going as all moods come and go, it would seem necessary to invite it, at any rate for long enough to let us feel the full force of the circumstances by which we are surrounded. For surely we should be lacking in emotional depth and force if we could really understand our situation and never feel depressed.
 
Let us admit, then, and freely, that the notion of getting rid of gloom by reciting to ourselves a few well chosen pollyannaisms is both futile and absurd. Let us go on to admit that if it could succeed, which it cannot under present conditions, such a shallow success would be unwholesome and unworthy. Let us even go a little deeper and acknowledge that sadness is a part of human life: that a mature man or woman accepts it. It is not only that personal disappointment or bereavement can cause it: the contemplation of the world itself--the world man makes and breaks--should cause it. So should spiritual insight into the very nature of life: its hopes and dreams, its precariousness and fragility, its frustrations and failures, its love and longing, its perplexities and bafflements. In all that life is, even in its joys, there is at least the hint of sadness. Always we hear what Wordsworth called "the still, sad music of humanity."
 
"I have learned," [he says]
"To look on nature, not as in the hour
Of thoughtless youth; but hearing oftentimes
The still, sad music of humanity..."
But he does not find it merely painful. He has discovered, he goes on to say, that what at first was dejection and despondency can deepen into something that carries within it the pulse and power of life itself, something that brings to the soul its own revelation of the meaning hidden within the mystery. For,
"I have felt," [he continues, in a well-known passage]
"A presence that disturbs me with the joy
Of elevated thoughts; a sense sublime
Of something far more deeply interfused,
Whose dwelling is the light of setting suns,
And the round ocean and the living air,
And the blue sky, and in the mind of man."
 
And since Wordsworth is by no means alone in this discovery, we can be sure that despondency and gloom, and indeed sadness in any of its intensities, can make us far more sensitive to ultimate meaning, can deepen us spiritually, can bring us closer to the greatness which is always trying to lay its touch upon us --or, in shorter, more familiar words, can help us grow a soul.
 
That, it seems to me, is the first thing to know about gloom: that it is not necessarily a misfortune or a deprivation. If you can learn how to treat it, how to live with it when it visits you, it can be a means of spiritual development. This will never be so if you try to treat it superficially, or if you take fright at tragic realities. it will never be so if you attempt to bolster up your life with artificial gaieties. You have to accept sadness--yet, you must never surrender to it.
 
That is the second thing. You must never surrender to sadness. There are people who turn it into a permanent melancholy, so that it becomes an emotional indulgence--something quite demoralizing. Because they find themselves sometimes pessimistic, they insist upon being always pessimistic. Thus they are able to sever themselves from what needs to be done in the world. "It is all hopeless," they say, "quite hopeless!" And because they can say it is hopeless, they feel excused from trying to do anything about it. This is surrender. Just as "pollyannaism" can be one form of escape--a shallow one--so pessimism can be another--also shallow. Let us analyze it.
 
The pessimist convinces himself that because he has succumbed to melancholy, he is somehow a superior sort of person. He has faced the worst, he says, and is not deceived like other people. But he is deceived. He deceives himself. He has not faced the worst. He has only glanced at it--and run away in complete retreat. He has given up. If he had faced the worst and kept on facing it, he would have found it necessary to do something. Even in his thinking he would have gone on with the struggle until he found convictions--the conviction, for instance, that whatever happens, life is full of its own great purpose--a purpose that must be served; and that this is a reality woven into the texture of all other realities. Gloom can never be a real excuse for moral cowardice.

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